When a Spouse Dies…

Encountering the loss of a spouse is overwhelming.

The mourning process may include shock, numbness, and deep pain and sorrow. Logistically, emotionally, spiritually, and logistically, there is much to navigate and process. 

The best way to ensure you can focus your energy on grieving, remembering, honoring, and healing after your loved one passes is to ensure you have all the logistics in order ahead of time. We've compiled an actionable list of simple logistics updates that will aid in managing their affairs after your loved one has passed. (These helpful tips were adapted from this tiktok video created by Jerry Taylor Law.)

1. Establish a pronouncement of death and make funeral home arrangements.
   If a medical professional is not present at the time of death, you'll want to call 911 so that a pro can provide the official pronouncement of death. You will also want to contact a funeral home, who can arrange transport of the body.

2. Contact those who need to know.
   Start with your loved ones: your family and close friends. Let your spouse's employer know. After friends and colleagues, contact any life insurance or burial insurance providers you may have. You'll want to schedule meetings with your attorney, CPA, and financial planner next. Finally, notify the Social Security Agency and the DMV.

3. Change the point of contact on any shared accounts.
   For any joint accounts, remove their name. Contact those companies to switch or deactivate services for any services or subscriptions entirely in your spouse's name.

4. Move forward with the applicable legal proceedings.
   If your spouse has a will, you will move forward with the probate process. Start the intestate succession process if they did not have a will or legally binding instructions for assets and property. Each state has different regulations for when this occurs. If your spouse has a trust, contact your estate planning lawyer.

5. Obtain copies of the death certificate.
   It is recommended to have 10 copies of this certificate for various entities that may require a copy.

In addition, planning for a loved one's departure should include emotional and spiritual preparation. Our Death Doula services can help individuals and their loved ones transition on their terms. We offer care and support for the entire family, life legacy projects, life reviews, spiritual support, grief check-ins, and more. Learn about all our Death Doula offerings here. 

Every relationship is different, as is every transition. Don't be afraid to make the plans that best suit you and your loved one during this uniquely personal experience. And please, don't hesitate to contact me if I can help. 

To Life and Death,
Jenny